Gratitude

How to develop gratitude in your life

GratitudeHap­py New year to all my readers,I hope you are all well and ready to start the year with an atti­tude of gratitude.We have many things to be thank­ful for. We are alive and well. If your read­ing this your prob­a­bly not starv­ing, you have clothes on your back and you have some­where to live.

Many of us find our­selves react­ing to the hus­tles and bus­tles of life. life is hard is what we tell our­selves. life is dif­fi­cult, most times because of what we tell our­selves. We allow these neg­a­tive thoughts and feel­ings to take us over and par­a­lyze us. we start react­ing to every neg­a­tive thing out there and we become neg­a­tive.

You have to have an atti­tude of grat­i­tude when you are in this state, your mind becomes pos­i­tive.

How gratitude affects mindset

Do you notice that when we are in a neg­a­tive state of mind we tend to look for some­thing neg­a­tive to feed that men­tal­i­ty? We start rec­og­niz­ing all the bad things in our lives and all the good things take a back seat.

This is because that’s how your retic­u­lar acti­vat­ing sys­tem works. If you are neg­a­tive your brain seeks out neg­a­tive things to jus­ti­fy why you are neg­a­tive. Let’s use an exam­ple; if you think your life sucks,your mind goes through the data­base of neg­a­tive things that ever hap­pened to you and begins to pull out the neg­a­tive files to val­i­date your claims.

It starts giv­ing you rea­sons like your life sucks because you don’t have a car. You don’t have a lot of mon­ey or peo­ple hate you because of what a hand­ful of neg­a­tive peo­ple have said to you.

Your mind is pow­er­ful. It can delude even itself. If you tell your­self that you are depressed it looks for all the rea­sons why you should be depressed. This is one of the rea­sons why if you are in a neg­a­tive state you should get away from neg­a­tive peo­ple and stop con­sum­ing neg­a­tive media.

It’s like fuel­ing a fire that is self-sus­tain­ing because it is already look­ing for fuel for itself. A pos­i­tive out­look changes every­thing about how you see life and your brain works to make your life pos­i­tive. A pos­i­tive mind­set lets you seek out oth­er things that are pos­i­tive.

Get away from neg­a­tive peo­ple and stop con­sum­ing neg­a­tive media. It’s like fuel­ing a fire that is self-sus­tain­ing because it is already look­ing for fuel for itself. Hav­ing a pos­i­tive out­look changes every­thing about how you see life and your brain works to make your life pos­i­tive. Hav­ing a pos­i­tive mind­set lets you seek out oth­er things that are pos­i­tive.

Have an attitude of gratitude

Instead of say­ing “my life sucks”, look at all the bless­ings you have in your life. You can even think about the neg­a­tive as being a bless­ing in dis­guise. Many of us are unable to rec­og­nize that some things are gifts but we just don’t see them that way. A per­son who goes through hard­ship and pover­ty  and who has an atti­tude of grat­i­tude often finds that those were a bless­ing. They act­ed as heat tem­per­ing the steel of his soul.

Going through hard­ship and pover­ty allows him to appre­ci­ate life more and those expe­ri­ences gave him the gifts of deter­mi­na­tion and tenac­i­ty to pull him­self out of his sit­u­a­tion.

Many of us want suc­cess to fall into our laps. That is the def­i­n­i­tion of fail­ure. It’s unful­fill­ing. It’s about the jour­ney, let me give you a lit­tle unortho­dox exam­ple when I was younger I use to love play­ing video games and some­times I would get to a lev­el where I was just stuck I didn’t know how to get to the next lev­el and so I looked up the cheat codes. I found all the codes that would let me get ahead in the game with­out work­ing for it . after a while the game became bor­ing. there was just no chal­lenge no feel­ing of accom­plish­ment.

Many of us are look­ing for the cheat code to life.We Look for short­cuts and avenues to put our­selves for­ward but in the end, we are not ful­filled. Ful­fill­ment hap­pens through doing the hard actions it’s a bless­ing in dis­guise.

Let’s use the lot­tery for anoth­er exam­ple. I have known peo­ple who got a lot of mon­ey just hand­ed to them but they’re not ful­filled. The lack of ful­fill­ment caused them to seek out mate­r­i­al things to try to fill the gap. This often leads to dis­ap­point­ment because mate­r­i­al things do not fill the gap.

Ful­fill­ment comes from going through the process of acquir­ing the mon­ey. Instead of hav­ing it hand­ed to you. Don’t you feel a sense of accom­plish­ment when you did some­thing you were proud of? maybe it’s work­ing on a project where you didn’t cut cor­ners and actu­al­ly put in the work. It gives you piece of mind.

Adversity builds gratitude

Going through adver­si­ties in life allows us to be grate­ful. When we over­come an adver­si­ty we should become more thank­ful for it! Get into the men­tal­i­ty that life doesn’t hap­pen to you ‚it hap­pens for you.

Don’t be down on your­self and beat your­self up because of you believe you’re not where you should be. When­ev­er you feel this way I want you to do this exer­cise; go on the Inter­net and search for the top five suc­cess­ful peo­ple that come to your mind.

 Read their biog­ra­phy. I guar­an­tee you will find at least one if not all who were going through what you are going through. In some cas­es worse sit­u­a­tions than where you are at now. So hold on suc­cess will come just keep work­ing. right now you are prepar­ing for it.

Let me know what you think about this blog post in the com­ments below, sub­scribe to my mail­ing list and as always stay moti­vat­ed and be grate­ful. Peace.

PS: I have includ­ed a link to the Biog­ra­phy of Chris Gard­ner you might have seen his sto­ry in the movie the pur­suit of hap­pi­ness. If you are strug­gling you may be able to relate and allow you to have grat­i­tude for all the good things in your life.

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